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The Problem with People-Pleasing

Is bending over backwards really best for your relationship?

Is bending over backwards really best for your relationships? Image: Flickr/LisaCyr cc license.

I can’t tell you how many times a new client has walked into my office and said to me, “I don’t understand why I am so lonely. I bend over backwards to make everyone else happy, why is it that no one seems to care how I feel?” It is a common phenomenon in which in order to feel safe and secure in our relationships, we can easily stop focusing on our own needs and wishes and put all of our energy into accommodating everyone else’s. The problem is, most of the time this strategy backfires on us.

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